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Praying for Your Child’s Mate

Posted by on Feb 13, 2014 in traditions | 12 comments

I long for my home to be a beautiful haven for my family.

But more than a warm, inviting space…

…and more than pretty rooms…

…I pray that our home is rich with tradition and meaning.

I want to teach my girls and guide them and pray with them and have fun with them.

I don’t want to be so wrapped up in my own “to-do list” that I miss those small moments that will shape them.

And as I think about Valentine’s Day, I am reminded what an amazing husband I have.  And what a wonderful father my girls have.

And I know for sure and for certain that God led me straight to this man.

Praying for your Child's Mate

Because when I was in the 10th grade, a Sunday School teacher had each of us to write down the things that we wanted in our mate.  And they encouraged us to begin to pray for that person.

I still remember my list:

1. Someone who could make me laugh.

2. Someone who loved children and would value me being a “stay-at-home” mom.

3. Someone who wanted to be active with a youth group at church.

4. Someone who would be a leader in the church.

5. And if that someone could have dark hair and green eyes, well that would just be bonus points! 🙂

Praying for your Child's Mate

And even though I went through times in those next 6 years that I got distracted and didn’t pray for him,

I always made my way back to that little list.

And God was so faithful.

Because if you know my husband, you know that my list was right on.

{This picture was taken on our honeymoon. Wow we were young!}

Praying for your Child's Mate

I am so thankful for the Sunday School teacher who had us take the time to make that list.

And more than anything I pray that my girls will marry men just like their daddy.

Praying for your Child's Mate

So in each of their rooms, we have a tiny heart frame that is empty.

But that little frame represents the man that will one day be their mate.

And I don’t want a day to go by that we aren’t lifting him up in prayer.

It just takes a moment…

Praying for your Child's Mate

And I must admit that there are days that I see the little frame, but my list is too long, and I’m too distracted…

…But I want to take that small moment every day to lift him up.

And I trust that God will be faithful to those prayers.

Praying for your Child's Mate

And 18 years into their marriages, they will be stronger, better people for having married that man.

And he will still make them laugh harder than anyone they know.

And they will be leading their children to love the Lord.

And they will be more in love than ever.

And they will wonder how they got so lucky to marry someone so wonderful.

And they will think back to that tiny tarnished silver heart frame…

…and they will know that it is all because of those prayers that we prayed for all of those years.

Life to the full!


**I almost hesitated to publish this, because I know that there are women who will read this who have experienced such pain and hurt in their marriages. And I know that some of the situations that you find yourself in are out of your control.  And as I write this, I am lifting YOU up…with my eyes literally full of tears…praying for God to heal your heart.**

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  1. Melissa, Thank you for your words and reminder! I was in 9th grade when our Wednesday night teacher encouraged us to start praying for our spouse. I tell my girls in the youth group to start praying now, too. I love the heart frame idea and will find one to use with both of my kids. 🙂 May have to use them for church camp class this summer, too! Love your blog!

  2. Oh, Melissa! Do not hesitate to post anything from your heart. This is a beautiful post. Yes, there are those whose hearts are sore and have not had a wonderful relationship with their chosen love, but we need to continue to hear from those who have what you have and what I had. My beloved is home with Jesus and waiting for me, yours is still with you. We are both blessed. I love the tradition of the silver frame. What a grand idea. Would work for sons as well. I am going to start looking for some for my grands. Thank you.

  3. Great post Melissa, while none of have perfect lives, or control over other’s actions, this prayer is so important. Especially teaching our children the value of their parents, and to seek wisdom when making big decisions. Oh to have been taught this early on! Good job mama 🙂

    xo, Tanya

  4. I’m a mother of 2 daughters in their 20’s. During the years they were growing up, I would pray for their future husbands (when I happened to think of it!) I am humbled and grateful that God answered my prayers “exceedingly and abundantly beyond what I could have asked or imagined”. My oldest just got married last July and the youngest is getting married May 31. Both of their husbands are wonderful, Godly men. I’m continually thankful and blessed as I see these two awesome men God has sent in answer to those prayers.

  5. This is a Beautiful post Melissa! Even though I have been married 3 times (this last one has been my charm and love that God sent to me), I always saw that my Girls maintained their Faith. Today, they have both past 7 years of marriage with the same wonderful men, I could not have asked for better Son In Laws, and fathers to my beautiful Granddaughters. Both of whom came from one home and it was filled with Love and the Lords Blessings everyday.

    Have a Wonderful Valentines Day!
    Huggs, Nancy

  6. Thank you for sharing from your heart!

  7. Your sharing is such a beautiful story. May God bless you and your family always.

  8. This post is so spot on….and timely. Thank you for your courage to share. I will tweet you out to over 11k followers….this message needs to spread.

  9. Melissa, I love your frame idea! When I was younger, no one shared with me to pray for my future husband. Thankfully, my husband was praying for me. I did begin praying for my 3 girls 20+ years ago. My oldest is 23 and right now there isn’t anyone even on the radar. I know she aches to find her soulmate that God has for her so we just stand firm and keep praying. Thanks for sharing your heart.

  10. Thank you for sharing this beautiful post with us Melissa! I’m married to my best friend and he is a wonderful father to our children and I pray my two girls find a man just like him and that my son finds a women that will cherish him the way I cherish my husband.

  11. Melissa…thank you so much for sharing this post; I absolutely love the heart frame and what it symbolizes. There was a very long stretch in my life when my younger brother married, my younger sister married, friends and co-workers were engaged and planning weddings at which I was either the soloist or a bridesmaid but never the bride. I recall a Christian friend of mine encouraging me to make a list of all the qualities I desired in a husband and to begin to talk to the Lord regularly about my future husband. I was 31 when I met Eric and we married when we were 34. I remember seeing a rainbow the evening Eric proposed….it was a July evening with NO rain in the forecast and I was reminded that all God’s promises are true! Eric is a precious gift from the Lord, to me….he is everything I prayed for. We have a 13 yr old daughter and 16 yr old son and will celebrate our 20th anniversary in May.

  12. I so loved this post, and the love obviously felt in writing it. I feel like you, I was meant to find Mr. Charmer after a VERY difficult ex-marriage. But that hurt is all gone since I now truly have the one meant for me. I love the idea of the “empty” frame was a very heart felt idea. The faith you are instilling in yours girls will help them endure lives pain. What a great Mom you are, and person.

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